When I first heard about George Calderon it was the mid-1980s and my time was mainly taken up with small children. However I realised that something big was starting when Patrick went to Scotland to visit an attic full of lumber, in mid winter. There was snow on the ground even in Cambridge and it was so thick in Scotland that his train got stuck in a drift. When he returned I heard about the invigoratingly cold attic where he found letters, papers and other items relating to George and Kittie. This was ‘the archive’ which, 30 years later, has moved temporarily to Cambridge.
There were many other visits to Scotland to catalogue the archive, and marathons of train and taxi travel to places that were of huge importance to Kittie Calderon, including one to Foxwold and her home at Kennington, White Raven. It was after this visit, also in the 1980s, that I heard about the three elderly Pyms whom Patrick met at Foxwold, one of whom, Jack Pym, had designed White Raven. It was then I discovered ‘White Raven’ was also Kittie’s nickname while that of her best friend, Nina Corbet, was ‘Black Raven’.
So by the start of the 1990s I was aware of several key players in Kittie Calderon’s life. But I did not know much about George – he was an enigma and continues to be so even though I know far more about him now.
Kittie is a real person. Is this because much of what she did is familiar territory or is it that the archive of letters and papers is her collection? Her style of living was similar to the views and behaviour of my grandparents, and her photos mirror those of our family from the early 20th century. Kittie’s hand is on literally everything from her suitcase (see Calderonia 15 January 2016) to her ordering and labelling of papers.
Through Kittie I have met both her contemporaries and her (and her friends’) descendants. Communicating with and meeting people ‘keeps the world going round’ so it has been wonderful to be on the fringes of Kittie’s huge network. I feel as though I have met them all, past and present.
What about George and his family and friends? I know about him, his parents and his siblings, but I do not feel I have met them. None of their descendants lives in Britain. My understanding of George (if that is possible of someone I’ve described on several occasions as a maverick) is mainly through Kittie. But his wonderful Christmas card (see Calderonia 27 June 2015) did give me a real insight into his talent for comedy and fun.
It may seem odd to have ‘met’ people from the past, but the work that Patrick has been doing on George and Kittie’s lives has created a sense that we are living 100 years ago. There was a particularly freaky time during the 1914-15 blog, written continuously exactly 100 years later in 2014 -15, when it was all too easy to feel we were living 100 years in the past. In 2015 I often caught myself referring to the present as 1915.
Part of my parallel life in ‘George-and-Kittie-land’ has been to get to grips with family trees. Many of them are complex because there were second marriages following death or divorce, in some cases no male children to inherit and of course family tragedies. The 1914-18 war took its toll as did illness. A lasting memory, from our visit several years ago to Moreton Corbet churchyard, is the ‘missing statue’ (of Mercury) above Vincent Corbet’s grave (see Calderonia 2 September 2016). The statue has since been recovered but seeing the statue-less plinth created such a powerful sense of loss, unhappily familiar to so many people at the time.

Moreton Corbet, November 2009 (the poppy commemorates Jim Corbet, killed in action at Givenchy 15 April 1915)
This leads me on to places. It has been a great privilege and delight in more recent years to visit a range of places that were important to both George and Kittie. The trip to Tahiti following in George’s footsteps has yet to happen but it has been discussed – I am not optimistic!
Kittie’s first husband, Archie Ripley, was brought up at Earlham Hall in Norwich. Our visits there have spanned a long enough period of time to see it steadily change from a fairly run-down version of the house his family rented (Archie’s mother’s first husband was one of the Gurneys) to a wonderfully restored building in splendid grounds. As well as the house itself, the lawns and paths match the 19th century idyllic garden described by Percy Lubbock, a nephew of Archie’s, who visited regularly as a child. The descriptions bring the place to life and it is lovely to be able to visit what was a childhood paradise.
Eastcote, near Pinner, is where George lived when he was ‘courting’ Kittie. That word does not match George and he was certainly not ‘going out’ with her. His approach was more of a sensitive campaign. He walked or cycled from the house where he lodged and, thanks to local historian Karen Spink, we were able to follow his route on paths that still exist. In 1904 George and Kittie visited Cap Gris Nez, staying at La Sirène which is now a restaurant – we ate there looking westwards in the evening sun across the beach and the rocks (hence the name) that Kittie and George sat on to be photographed. They painted the landscape, so we were able to match the old pictures with the present views.

Cap Gris Nez, 2013 (the large white building on the left is on the site of the original hotel that George and Kittie stayed in, September 1904)
After George’s death Kittie had two ‘new’ homes of her own, near Petersfield and at Kennington, both of which we have seen – and to me they came alive both from her accounts and photos and through today’s local historians. She had strong associations with Foxwold over a relatively long time. It provided her with a stable base where close friends lived (and their descendants still do, near by) and to whom she provided support from time to time. At White Raven she was only forty miles or so from Foxwold.

White Raven, 1986
It is easier to associate George with words and ideas than places. He visited Cambridge when it was very different from now despite the core of old buildings. It was an eventful and unpopular visit because he tried to drum up support from undergraduates to work in the mines during the 1912 strike, one of many examples of taking action in aid of his strong belief in a cause. This is one side of this multi-faceted man. Another is his amazing ability to relate to children from being on holiday with the Pym children in 1914, the very ones 70 years later that Patrick met when he visited Foxwold, to entertaining small children who stayed with them (‘Let’s play Queen Elizabeth and Sir Walter Raleigh and the cloak, and I’ll be the mud’).
Living with George and Kittie is going to carry on for many years – what an opportunity!












Kittie Hamilton
I have returned from holiday fired up to put the last tittle on my biography by the end of November and get copies to the interested publishers immediately afterwards. This means writing the Afterword (‘Who George Calderon Was’), radically improving the ill-fated Introduction, producing the Bibliography, and composing voluminous and fulsome Acknowledgements. I think it is possible to do this without ‘O fallacem hominum spem!‘ [27 July 2016] striking, as I am on course to start writing the Afterword next week…
A blog is a very wonderful thing; or at least, it has proved so for me. As I explained last year, I was very sceptical about its value to begin with, but it led to incredibly enriching dialogues with followers by both Comment and email, it even led to the discovery of new Calderoniana, and in a way it produced a new form of biography (‘blography’). Most recently, it has enabled me to moot on the screen some key issues of my Afterword, such as the ‘nastiness factor’ and the ‘hero complex’, and impelled three subscribers to recommend further reading on the Edwardians that I have found useful. Thank you!
I will touch on only one more aspect of George’s character as an Edwardian, and that will be on Saturday, 8 October. Meanwhile, though, I think it would be appropriate to address some issues concerning Kittie.
The principal one must be that to the modern woman she seems not remotely modern. Her failure to ‘get a life of her own’ must indeed seem exasperating and sad. Her support for anti-suffragism would appear to confirm her lamentable ‘backwardness’. In her memoirs she describes utterly convincingly how George needed her when he was based at home; if she had to go away, ‘he at once seemed to feel left and lost’. Yet when he had to go away on a solo adventure, e.g. to Tahiti, it looks as though she simply waited patiently and meekly at home like a doormat to welcome him back. As a trained artist and believer in the Arts and Crafts Movement, why did she not exhibit paintings, make and sell handicrafts, design things? Why does her work as a VAD during the war seem so half-hearted? Why couldn’t she put all that dynamism of hers into nursing or hospital administration? She was only forty-eight when George disappeared at Gallipoli, so why didn’t she do something full-time on the Home Front that might have opened into a career, as it did for many women? Was Kittie’s identity, her life, her ‘fame’, entirely and only derived from her devotion to George, who manifestly did not need her as much as she thought?
Let me briefly address these points. There was nothing unusual about Kittie not wanting the parliamentary vote. The overwhelming majority of upper/middle class women didn’t want it either, because they did not like what they saw of men’s political life, they wanted their own separate sphere, and they wanted to do the maximum good for society through voluntary caring and nurturing, particularly in local communities and politics, where they already had the vote. (Edwardian society would have fallen apart without them.) We know that as soon as George left on one of his ‘adventures’ Kittie went to stay with Nina Corbet, or at least in a Corbet property where Nina could visit her, or with another of her woman friends. Her relationship with Nina always has to be taken into account in her relationship with George; it entirely complements it. Although in her late twenties Kittie worked terrifically hard at her painting, she came to acknowledge that she did not have the originality or technique to pursue it professionally. She did, however, encourage many younger artists, and her contacts in Arts and Crafts were invaluable to her in designing the posthumous edition of George’s works. We know from George’s letter to William Rothenstein of 1 January 1915 that throughout the war Kittie was chronically ill (at first gynaecologically, then with pernicious anaemia). She had bursts of energy, but I don’t think she could have sustained full-time work in the Red Cross. However, dare I say it, nursing is not a job, it’s a lifetime vocation, even a way of life and a spiritual belief. She had nursed her first husband for three years, her mother for about six years, and was all her friends’ counsellor and nurse in sickness, miscarriages and stress. Her personality was not self-advancing or political, it was kenotic.
But underlying modern, perhaps feminist disappointment with Kittie is, I believe, the feeling that she should have earned her own living. This, of course, would have meant having a career, and for reasons I have already given it’s difficult to see how that would have been possible, even if she had wanted it, which I think before she married Archie Ripley she did. Financially, however, she did not need to work because in 1906 she inherited a large house in Hampstead and some capital from her mother (i.e. it was Simson money, not Hamilton money, because her father died penniless), and after 1898 she had an income from Ripley’s trust fund. This, surely, is the aspect of Kittie’s life that we find most difficult to accept today, whether we are feminists or not. So few of us have any experience of a private income that we may automatically protest that it is wrong. Yet the idea that Kittie did not ‘work’ because she did not ‘need’ to, would be simplistic. The fact is, she had so many altruistic commitments which her money enabled her to meet without paid employment, that she used her unearned income to do those things (i.e. work at them) all the time it lasted — which it only just did. She not only ran her own affairs very impressively after George’s death, she travelled all over southern England ministering care and advice to friends, the Pyms, Calderons, Mrs Stewart… By 1937 she was diagnosed as suffering from chronic exhaustion.
Of course, having a private income was a very Edwardian phenomenon. To what extent, then, was Kittie herself an unreconstructed Edwardian? As far as I know, she never used the adjective Edwardian of herself, but a memoir that she wrote at the end of her life contains a very strong attack on the Victorian age. She felt that it was rooted in the love of money. She disapproved of the poverty, squalor and ignorance that it produced, and she was convinced that Victorian imperial hubris would end in disaster. As I have said before, I believe that the Edwardian period witnessed the greatest explosion of democratic discourse — in politics, on the streets, in the theatre, in print — that Britain has ever known (and it nearly blew the country apart). I think that both George and Kittie saw themselves as part of the great democratic experience. Perhaps because of the long post-WW1 Left consensus, it is difficult for us now to see that. In historical party political terms, George and Kittie were almost certainly Liberals, but today their views on suffrage, trade unionism, the Community, or defence, approximate them more to radical Conservatism. Kittie followed national and international politics closely in the 1930s. I think she felt that her and George’s politics were ‘progressive’ because they were ahead of their socialistic times — she several times implies that in her memoirs.
In my opinion, a very important point is that many of Kittie’s activities (her ‘work’) were enabled by her being a Hamilton, i.e. the scion of an English family that could trace its ancestry to Edward I; a member of a top Anglo-Irish family; the daughter of John Hamilton the Good (see my post of 3 August 2016). She moved very confidently in society, networking came naturally to her, and this was the source of her success as George’s agent. She very rarely comes across as bossy, but her manipulative and diplomatic skills were inbred and her social authority recognised everywhere. She usually got her way. This enabled her to play a leading role in charitable ventures at Hampstead, Petersfield and Kennington. Although she always had ‘Mrs George Calderon’ emblazoned on her suitcases, in a sense she was really always Katharine Hamilton.
I have written the above somewhat off the top of my head, thinking onto the screen — as has been so beneficial whilst mulling over my Afterword about George as an Edwardian. I don’t know whether I shall discuss Kittie as an Edwardian or anything else in the Afterword. To some extent, the life and personality of Kittie embrace the whole book; and this is intentional. It starts with her marriage to George’s friend Archie Ripley (whilst George was in Russia), it covers the whole of her fifteen-year marriage to George, and it continues for another thirty-five years without him. I don’t know about attempting to sum her up. The temptation to ‘defend’ her in the Afterword may prove irresistible, but really the whole book should show what she was: a vibrant, long-suffering, lovable, and emotionally intelligent woman. Numerous people, including a great-niece of hers, have told me that ‘really’ I am most interested by Kittie and the book is ‘really’ about her! Well, I don’t know about that. As a theatre person and ex-Russianist, I was naturally first drawn to George, but after their marriage I became more and more conscious of their symbiosis.
However, I do think — no, I know — that when Kittie died in the Hove nursing home on 30 January 1950, having given instructions that her funeral should be private, with no flowers, and her ashes scattered (we don’t know where), she felt that she had done all that she wanted with her life, that she was completely fulfilled.